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February 08 2018


new SGA Discourse Rule




Don’t tell me, “the LGBT community came together to fight homophobia and transphobia”, when the gay community uses the same exact “trans women in bathrooms” language, to exclude trans people from the Employment Non-Discrimination Act, that The Straights use to keep us from using the bathroom in the first place. (ENDA finally, eventually, was revised to include trans people, but it still doesn’t address bathroom access, and Senator Frank has fought for years to try to get it to explicitly exclude safe bathrooms.) 

Don’t tell me, “the LGBT community came together to fight homophobia and transphobia”, when just three years ago an HRC field director chastized a trans activist for protesting outside the Supreme Court during the Defense of Marriage Act hearings, saying, “Marriage isn’t a transgender issue”.

Don’t tell me, “the LGBT community came together to fight homophobia and transphobia,” when even in 1999 an Advocate reader poll showed that half of the gay and lesbian community still thought of itself as a gay movement that hetero trans people were inexplicably trying to horn in on. 

#everyone keeps using this phrase and it’s utterly untrue #not one grain of truth anywhere in it #what you’re thinking of is that the gay community grudgingly accepted a limited set of trans issues as important #over the last decade or so #and you all have no idea what a real LGBT community that isn’t centered on gay politics would look like #so you embrace what you see #if you like it so much enjoy #but I won’t be joining you

i reread this and i liked my tags, so here you are.

oh also BONUS RULE

Don’t tell me, “The LGBT community came together to fight homophobia and transphobia when bi trans women threw the first brick at Stonewall,” when there were active communities and active movements around this stuff going back a hundred years prior to that. 

Look at Germany, where people like Magnus Hirschfeld were working really hard to research and record the burgeoning movement: 

If you’re interested in the German queer movement before the War, you should read Gay Berlin by Robert Beachy - it’s easy to read and cheaper than the ‘proper’ scientific books on that topic.

One of the most interesting facts from that book: There were so-called ‘transvestite IDs’ in Berlin (’transvestite’ was at that point the word used for people who included transgender people and crossdressers - the aforementioned book also chronicles the development from the initial assumption that gender and sexual orientation are essentially the same to the recognition that those people who don’t conform to the norm in their sexual orientation and those people who don’t conform to the norm in their gender identity are two entirely different subsets in the community, and all this grew from a process of discussion within those communities). At the time, wearing the clothes of the (perceived) opposite gender in public was a criminal offence, but if you had this ID it was officially recognised that you were allowed to wear clothes that don’t match the gender marker on your normal ID and that you were therefore not committing an offence. IIRC, these ‘transvestite IDs were given out by Hirschfeld’s institute and registered with the police, who were surprisingly chill when it came to the queer community.

The sad thing is that all this was very much destroyed by the Nazis, to the extent that even after the War, there were waves of processes against gay people, to the point that that caused a suicide wave in several cities.


Exclusion and Inclusion


I am 45.

I say this as a preamble to what I want to cover.  Simple oldness does not give me any general authority, but it does give me lived experience through some of the history that seems to get argued about.  Even that can be limited, because I wasn’t part of the larger LGBT community from birth, and because in the before-time of the Internet (70s and 80s) there was a lot of regional variation.  I lived in a bunch of places, but not everywhere.  So what I know about NYC in the 70s and 80s is pretty theoretical.  What I know about Nevada and the Upper Midwest?  Pretty accurate.


A few days ago, @scribbleowl posted a great post about LGBT+ community models.

I found that post compelling.

The great thing about models is that there are so many of them.  They work a bit like User Interface metaphors in computers.  That is, a computer “desktop” is pretty different from the top of an actual a desk or table, but they are similar enough to allow real conversation about the underlying things, but there are always slight differences from the real thing.  And just like with different OSes, you can have different and yet similar models.

So.  Another model.

Lets talk about mainstream culture.  Mainstream US culture, because this is largely US centric.  The pinnacle of US mainstream culture are who?

Men.  White men.  Straight, white men.  Straight, white, cisgender men.

At various points in history we had people who were non-men and/or non-white fighting for recognition of their civil rights – that gives you the sufferagettes, feminism, and the Civil Rights movements.

One of the biggest problems with these movements was that there were people who were both non-white and non-men, but their rights were not evenly won.  Women got the vote in 1920, but Native American women (and Native Americans in general, in fact) weren’t even citizens until 1924.  And until the Voting Rights act of 1964, a lot of blacks in general, and women in particular, had trouble excercising that right.

This inequality is not a positive of these movements.  It is not something they should be proud of, and it’s not something we should seek to emulate in future civil rights discourse.

Which brings us to today, and MOGAI identity politics, and asexual inclusion or exclusion.

In my humble opinion, the LGBTQIA community – what I would, with my own personal history, casually refer to as the Queer community, or the QUILTBAG community, or the MOGAI community – is most appropriately made up of people who don’t fit into the ‘straight’ or ‘cisgender’ descriptors in the straight, white, cisgender, male ‘pinnacle’ of modern US society.

Under that rubrik, you would presumabely be looking to exclude people who were both straight and cisgender from being community members, while other combinations would be included.  Straight but transgender, or not-straight but cisgender would be fine.  Not-straight and transgender would also be fine.

Assuming you accept all that, Ace, Bi, Trans, and NB inclusion seems like a no-brainer.  Ace people and Bi people aren’t straight.  Trans people and NB people aren’t cisgender.  What’s the problem?

At various points in our shared history, people – generally in the L and G categories – have decided that one of the other categories – ie, B or T or I (or Q) don’t exist as distinct identities worthy of inclusion.  No, those identities are actually made up of two categories – those that are “actually” straight, and should be excluded, and those that are “actually” gay or lesbian, and therefore should be included.

Today, that kind of analysis is being levied at the Asexual and Aromantic contingents.  But it has also been levied directly at trans, bi, and even in some cases intersex folks.  It’s used by TWERFS to categorize trans women as men – unacceptable – and trans men as women – acceptable.  It’s been used by various gay and lesbians to decide that bi people in mixed gender couples are “straight now” and no longer queer.  It’s been used by lesbians and gays to pathologize trans and bi folks as “not welcome” in various ways at various times.  The existence of the term ‘gold star lesbian’ is an example of this kind of thing, and the fact that for some people, sex with a trans woman would strip a lesbian of her gold star badge.

The sick thing is, at the same time that a bunch of Very Loud people are working to exclude Asexuals, there are parts of the community working to exclude transgender people and bisexuals.  Like, right now.  It’s not a historic argument, it’s a current one.  Possibly the folks arguing about Aces right now don’t want to use this rhetoric against trans or bi people, but other parts of the community absolutely do.

We are all in this together.  Because what our enemies care about isn’t what letter(s) you identify with, it’s that those identities aren’t straight, aren’t cisgender.  How you aren’t straight, how you aren’t cisgender, those don’t matter.  It’s a binary for them, even while it’s a spectrum for us.

Ace exclusion is wrong.  It is wrong from a historical perspective.  It is wrong from a discrimination perspective.  It is wrong from a rhetorical perspective.  It is based on a fundamental disrespect of Asexuality as a distinct identity.  That identity exists, it is discriminated against, and it has often found safety in our communities, whether it was called Asexuality or not.  It can only be seen as 'right’ if you think of Ace people as 'them’, somehow.  And many people who seem to think that seem to also think the same thing about 'bi’ and 'trans’ people.

They are wrong about all of us.  We belong.


TERFs should be kicked out from LGBT+ spaces




Reblog if you agree terfs put all trans people in danger and shouldn’t be allowed anywhere near LGBT+ safe spaces or to comment on the deaths of other dear LGBT+ members of our community. 

TERFs are the epitome of “abusive behavior” which is the only reason I think community should be gatekept.

So hell yes.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: If you want to make “safe spaces” safe and keep abusive behaviour out, this is where you start.




i am 100% convinced that constructing a radical feminism for cis women that isn’t transmisogynistic is impossible

the ideology is premised to its core in transmisogyny, its founding figures wrote transmisogynistic screeds, and any feminism hinging upon genital-based oppression or gender abolition is invariably going to be a joke

i have, to this day, never once met a self-identified “radical feminist” who was cis and whose ideas about gender didn’t make me feel at least uncomfortable, if not outright unsafe.

at very best, i have seen some cis self-identified radfems pretend to care about trans women - vocally disavowing connections to TWERFs while also saying some of the exact same things as TWERFs say about trans women; insisting that their spaces are safe for trans women or “dysphoric dmab people” (in their words) while still demanding permission to misgender them; pretending to give specific trans women a “pass” while condemning them (or “their lifestyle” /  “the trans movement”) behind their backs; etc.

this passed the tipping point from “absence of evidence” to “evidence of absence” a long time ago: if there were a cis “radical feminist” whose construction of radical feminism specifically wasn’t at least a little bit transmisogynistic, i would have met that person by now. i haven’t.




i still have yet to meet a cis/non-dmab-trans radical feminist who didn’t make me feel profoundly unsafe

i accept other trans women’s attempts to reclaim radical feminism, but i reject any tone policing from other people saying that the only radical feminists i can complain about are the ones that “allies” are willing to label as twerfs

Am with you on this - I tend to treat “radical feminist” as a warning sign, because frankly it usually is. I wish this wasn’t the case, but it would be foolish of trans people to ignore the correlation. I respect the radfems who aren’t virulently transphobic, but… they’re awfully thin on the ground.



can we get a decent post about vaginal and uterine health that’s not made by TWERFs? like, seriously, i’d reblog better posts about the topic more often if they were more prevalent

“medicine ignores females”, more like “i still haven’t learned to critically deconstruct cissexism and biological essentialism, and can’t treat misogyny in medicine and transphobia in medicine as two separate but entangled concepts”



Has anybody actually notified the fetlife users featured in that TERF anti-kink post? ‘cause… that seems important.




you know what really gets my goat?

el chupacabra

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With Halloween right around the corner…

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she’s cheering you on too!!



Thesis: the whole “reblog to make [X] mad” versus “reblog to make [Y] feel safe” discourse is basically the justice-as-punishing-transgression versus justice-as-redressing-harm debate in microcosm.

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Punk Cat



this cat is my everything, thank you.

I just had a moment of look the new Shadowrunner has joined the party!

I want to see if I can build this as a PC.


A Mom Got Sick Of Seeing Short-Shorts For Girls, So She Started Her Own Line



Sharon Choksi, founder Girls Will Be, decided to do something about the lack of options for girls. She said the inspiration for her new line of clothing, came from her daughter and niece, Maya and Grace, who wanted to wear clothing that wasn’t frilly, “nothing with bows” and absolutely “NO sparkles.” They were interested in “climbing trees, building LEGO creations, and playing with cars and trucks,” Choksi said.

Op of this is a terf, so I’m reposting this in case anyone was interested!

Good to know! Thank you lemon

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I saw @abunchofhooey ‘s post earlier today and,,,high school au jaspvid is,,,very good thank you for that





Raccoons are the worst. You expect them to go through your stuff and steal your food while you’re camping, but they don’t stop there - half the time, they’ll be curious enough to come over and touch you. They prod your sleeping body with their horrible little people hands, run their claws through your hair, hold your fingers with their own. I’ve never been aggressively menaced by one, but they’ve slapped my ass through hammock fabric on multiple occasions and stroked my face or hands on others. I’ve played tug-of-war with large raccoons through my window when they grabbed the string to the yarn-and-cup telephone I’d set up with my neighbor.


My first year at camp, our tent was infiltrated by at least six raccoons. They made scratching, shuffling noises as they crawled in from all sides. Somehow they were strong enough to shove our trunks across the ground, and started undoing zippers with horror-film slowness. How they didn’t wake anyone else up, I will never know. The shuffling noises suddenly stopped. They chittered to each other, and the sound was much closer than I had expected. Then I felt hands. Tiny fucking human hands touching my arms, not quite digging in with claws, and I whimpered and tried not to scream. This went on all night long.

I fucking hate raccoons.

They come into the cabins at camp every night. I’ve never had one touch any of my campers, but that’s only because I sleep with my hand curled around the handle of a broomstick and have trained myself to recognize their snuffling and scrabbling. I have leapt out of a bunk to sweep them forcefully out of the cabin in the dead of night, to sleepy tween boys whispering “Wow… you’re like a superhero…”

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Having an art slump due to life happening, so here is a doodle based on this post.

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